Mom Guilt – Reel or Real?

𝟟𝟝% 𝕠𝕗 π•‘π•’π•£π•–π•Ÿπ•₯𝕀? π•Žπ•™π•’π•₯!! ℝ𝕖𝕒𝕝𝕝π•ͺ?

Just after completing formal education, I had this burning desire to leave a footprint on the planet with my expertise and contribution. I invested the best of my youth to craft the career that would be my vehicle to my dreams, and boom 10 years from then, here I was a mother choosing between my love for my baby and my love for my career.

Ironically we are designed by nature to be mothers in just the same years that are also the prime years for career growth. Whether it be business or the corporate ladder, there seems to be a clash, and we experience the anxiety of divided attention in the Golden Time available to us as mothers. Across the world, working moms like me have been struggling with this two-sided love: though I love my career I constantly used to fear compromising on motherhood, leading me to stress and anxiety and most often pushing me to abandon or park aside my career for a later time.

If you are a mother you have heard this before in your own little voice buzzing chaos inside your own head and heart; yes, it’s Mom Guilt! It’s like our reflex mechanism.

π•„π• π•ž π”Ύπ•¦π•šπ•π•₯ – ℝ𝕖𝕖𝕝 𝕠𝕣 ℝ𝕖𝕒𝕝! 

Mom with a thriving career… is it even possible?

#twinning out on a Thursday morning with my best girl

To answer this, I invested my years researching, exploring, discussing, experimenting & as they say, seek and you shall find… I am glad I jumped up to the challenge almost 2 years back and decided to push myself into the ocean and take on the journey to see how we mothers can surf on the very tides that seem to drown us with guilt. Guess what – it’s possible; it wasn’t difficult but it was different!  

Looking back to the 2 years where I decided to see what it takes to have both a flourishing career and a beautiful enriching motherhood, I have come a long way in mastering this art of balance

From rewiring my core beliefs especially around what motherhood looks like to redesigning every aspect of my life – time, finances, attention, learning new skills, unlearning old patterns, investing in working with the best mentors to equip myself with cutting edge tools – I would say the MOM who started the journey 2 years back is super proud of the MOM I am today… making the current choices powerfully and living life by design, not by default at the effect of others. 

Yes, it’s possible to have thriving careers and a beautiful motherhood, yet it’s a journey that comes with commitment to have both. It’s a choice we must make that we will not compromise on either as both are essential parts of who we are.

Today, my EdTech Startup is shaping up with purposeful speed and I look forward to sharing with you all soon about the exciting experience it can bring forth for kids and parents who love to give the best to their kids.

Took 1 hour out on a Friday afternoon to take a Zoom call at the pool

The secret keys I learnt from my mentors that shifted my game are mastering the art of balance and the art of designing life by power of choices while unlearning the overused/misused/in fact abused skill of juggling. In most places, we assume juggling is balance, don’t we? Think about it!  Are you juggling, compromising or balancing? 

What you do is what your kids will learn.

π•Žπ•™π•–π•Ÿ 𝕨𝕖 π•“π•’π•π•’π•Ÿπ•”π•– 𝕨𝕖 π•₯π•™π•£π•šπ•§π•–, π•¨π•™π•–π•Ÿ 𝕨𝕖 π•›π•¦π•˜π•˜π•π•– 𝕨𝕖 𝕛𝕦𝕀π•₯ π•€π•¦π•£π•§π•šπ•§π•–.

If you are a mom and if you ever catch yourself saying, you need to live with Mom Guilt or compromise one thing for the other, pause and ask, is that true or are you just taking the route paved by many others before?

We live in a magical world with endless possibilities… Why should we cage ourselves with only what we have seen in the past and been conditioned to accept from the past? 

π•€π•Ÿ π•₯π•™π•šπ•€ 𝕕𝕒π•ͺ π•’π•Ÿπ•• π•’π•˜π•–, π•žπ• π•žπ•€ π•”π•’π•Ÿ 𝕙𝕒𝕧𝕖 π•šπ•₯ 𝕒𝕝𝕝! 𝕀π•₯’𝕀 π••π•–π•—π•šπ•Ÿπ•šπ•₯𝕖𝕝π•ͺ π•Ÿπ• π•₯ π••π•šπ•—π•—π•šπ•”π•¦π•π•₯ 𝕓𝕦π•₯ π•šπ•₯’𝕀 𝕒 π••π•šπ•—π•—π•–π•£π•–π•Ÿπ•₯ 𝕣𝕠𝕦π•₯𝕖.

It’s not perfect… It’s just the mom life-work life balance I have designed

So what is the 75% all about? Well as we know, Parenting Pangs have become a norm. Studies revealed that 75% of parents feel pressured to be β€œperfect” from friends, family and social media… But the biggest culprit of them all is the Mom Guilt!

If you are a parent who is keen to look at new possibilities and refuse to succumb to old ways, I would be happy to share with you more about my journey, how I design it and explore how a few strategies & tools can drastically shift your game.

If this post resonates with you, I’d love to hear your feedback and comments.

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